It's been 6 days since Son's girlfriend broke up with him. He seems to be coping for the most part, but he has his moments. He made the same mistake we all probably made with our first love - he focused all his energies on her and neglected his friends. Now he feels like he doesn't have any friends, even though he does. Hubby says it's different, though. Guys don't talk to their guy friends about broken relationships like girls do. I've tried to talk to him a few times but he quickly ends any conversation I try to start, unless it has nothing to do with her. At least I've tried.
I thought that was enough drama for one week, but apparently life had other ideas. On Friday, my mom called me at work. She was at the ER with my dad. I went to sit with her while they waited. Dad was dizzy, had a horrible headache and a toothache, and ached all over. His blood pressure was higher than normal for him. He hasn't been able to eat or sleep much in the past week or so. The ER doctor was very nice, and very thorough. He did bloodwork, an EKG, and chest x-rays - all of which came back normal. After calling dad's regular doctor, he told mom that dad's symptoms are apparently chronic (and they are). He gave dad antibiotics for the toothache and some pain meds for his aches, but insisted that he follow up with his regular doctor on Monday, and also see the dentist soon. Dad, of course, denied that he has chronic symptoms. He does have Meniere's Disease - an inner ear imbalance that affects balance and hearing. The doctor said he appeared to have some vertigo, which goes with the Meniere's Disease, which could have been making the headache worse.
Some in my family would ask if the episode was for real, or was it simply a way for dad to get some attention? Dad is definitely borderline depressed, in my opinion. He denies it and gets angry if anyone suggests that he is depressed. He has a history of acting out at times. Sometimes we really do believe he is playing at it; other times we believe he is actually not feeling well. The problem is we never know which is which. He's like the boy who cried wolf too many times.
Mom's surgery is scheduled for tomorrow. Was dad just trying to get some attention, knowing mom will have all eyes on her this week as she recuperates from what promises to be a painful surgery? I honestly don't think he was, not this time. Mom was able to schedule an appointment for him to see the dentist on Wednesday morning, and follow-up with his doctor Wednesday afternoon. Mom won't be able to drive for awhile, so the rest of us kids will have to ferry him around since he doesn't drive.
I'm hoping that April brings some real sunshine, as well as some emotional/mental sunshine for the family. I hope dad has maybe learned a lesson - that he needs to take care of himself. And I hope that mom's surgery is successful and that she won't need shoulder replacement.
Goodbye March Madness!!!
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