Keeping the peace is stressful, and it's starting to show on my blood pressure. At a doctors appointment today, I think it was higher than it's ever been. I need to work to bring it down - and keep it down - before it becomes a problem.
Daughter and hubby are fighting. Daughter is over-committed and admits it but doesn't want to change it for the time being. She wants hubby's help with the racecar. He doesn't mind helping, even though cars are not his thing. But they're too much alike - both opinionated and not willing to listen to the other's point of view. It doesn't help that they can't discuss it like rational adults - they're too busy talking over each other and they both think they know it all. Drives me crazy!
I'm proud my daughter and what she has accomplished. But she still needs to learn to roll. She's so wrapped up in her own interests that she has no patience for most others who don't have the same interests. She wonders why people don't understand her commitments. It's not that they don't understand commitments. It's that they have several interests of their own, which she doesn't understand or care to take time for. The problem is that she doesn't have the respect for their time and interests that she expects them to have for hers. I'm afraid that's going to be a tough lesson for her before she learns it.
Son started junior college this week. Today was day 3, and we've already changed his schedule three times. I think he's finally got a schedule he can deal with, even though I wouldn't go so far as to say he is "happy" with it. The whole college experience thing has been an ordeal. He's worked hard to keep his grades up to get the free 2 years worth of college, and yet he wanted to throw it away because he "hates" school. I was sick about it. But we threw out some options, and left him to decide. Thankfully he came around and agreed to go for at least one year, taking classes he is really interested in but not following a specific curriculum. That's fine with me - I just want him to have at least SOME college!
My mom and dad seem to be doing better, but my brother is having more health issues. He also started at the junior college this week, going back to school to better himself. Good for him! But I don't know if he can handle working full-time, plus full-time school. Because of health issues, mom thinks she has to drive him to work, and drive him to college. I told her to put him on the darned bus! There's no reason he can't ride the bus. I figure I'm going to lose that argument, but I haven't checked in with them this week yet ... I've been avoiding that one because it irritates me so much.
My father-in-law was moved a couple weeks ago to a different nursing home. We visited him this past weekend. The place seems ok, just different. He seemed to recognize hubby when we first got there - a broad smile lit up his face as he looked at hubby. An hour later, as we were saying goodbye, something set my father-in-law off and he lunged at hubby with a fist and a murderous look on his face. Strange... I don't know if he has a lucid moment when we say goodbye in which he thinks hubby is the one who put him there, or what. It's heartbreaking to see.
We also received some bad news last week. My mother-in-law has been diagnosed with breast cancer. She will be having surgery next week to have the breast and lymph nodes removed, in hopes that surgery gets it all. It's her choice, and we support her. I just pray that it does get it all, so that she doesn't have to have further treatments. At her age (late 70s), I'm afraid the treatments would be really difficult.
So...it's been a rough week, but hopefully things will improve soon!
Prayers for my mother-in-law, and other family and friends in need. I'm thinking of you all!
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